[The following is a wonderful excerpt from a Sunday Sermon given by Rev. Sun Myung Moon on Sept. 20, 1992 in New York. The link to the complete talk is at the end.]
It may be easy to say that Father should love Cain first and then Abel, but human beings are simply not built that way. Also Father must be able to deeply care about the women in the Unification Church in his heart and do that more than he loved his own wife when he married Mother. The same is true for America, too. You may be indifferent to it, but it is a very important nation. So you must love Cain more than Abel. It is not easy. It is like dying, but you have to do it, and so does the mother in loving the stepchildren first.
God gave His own son in order to restore all those who were enemies to Him. God did that Himself. Therefore He can tell us, “Love thy enemy.” That’s why Jesus was the greatest in history. Those whom he tried to love the most were the ones who pierced him, and he still said, “Do not blame them because they do not know what they are doing.” We must understand Jesus’ heart to restore God’s peace, God’s family peace. This was the only way, so Jesus did it. He did it for the sake of God’s family. We must understand what he did, what is great in reality, and do the same things for the same reasons. We have to understand the reasons why he loved the enemy. He did it to preserve God’s family.
We understand how this applies. If you fail in a marriage but you already have a child, and then you marry for the second time, you will bring your son or daughter to a new husband. If his family does not welcome you and your child, how difficult would your life be? God is exactly the same. We must understand that we must love. This is only possible because of God. It is very important that we hear and understand this. It is easy to hear the words, but do you really understand it? Maybe you do understand it, but then it has to simmer in, sink down into yourself. Correct? You have to listen and listen again with seriousness so that you can seriously understand, not superficially understand.
This is why the early Christians had to leave their homes and go out to foreign countries and evangelize. Then the people listened to them. But people in their own homes didn’t listen to them. Rome was Jesus’ enemy. Do you know why we say love your enemy? It is because there are lots of stepchildren who came about, so how can God accommodate them if He does not teach them how to love their enemy and help them practice doing that? So at this last Blessing, I really did not discriminate. The Blessing was not given only to Unification Church members. I wanted to give the Blessing to members and non-members. I extended the love of the family to non-family. Then they became family. (Applause)
So we must understand that Father is representing all the children of God, and the perfection of heart. He is like the king on the throne, the center of all the children, which is what all mankind is. Including Father and everyone of us, all mankind, has everything to do with God, and nothing to do with Satan. Here Father stands as the one who represents all the good brother and sister relationships, as well as the most perfected man and the most perfected heart of a husband. In other words, he should be the best husband in the whole world. When this is materialized, would Mother be a happy or an unhappy woman? (Happy.) Should Father stand in a position where Mother can frown and say, “You are not a good enough husband”? Or should I treat her in such a way that she can always say, “You are the best one. I respect you.” That kind of father and husband is what I should be. Actually, I have to become such that Mother, whenever her mouth opens in spite of herself, starts praising her husband. Everywhere she goes, she wants to brag and talk about her husband. When she became a grandmother, she wanted to speak about her husband even more and be even more proud.
Father also has a reason to be proud of Mother. Representing all of mankind, she obeyed Father more than any woman here on earth. I am now in a position which God has long been desiring to see and I am bequeathing that to all men and women, allowing them to become sons and daughters of God. God created man and woman to be that way in the original Blessing. Now that mankind has come under Him, He wants to give man the power of creation too. When man is perfected, he can realize God’s heart. To share that feeling, God gives parents sons and daughters. Of course you always have the original text, but pay attention to this, and engrave it in your heart and in your mind. Do not forget it.
(Father draws for a while on the board.) This is the four position foundation. This is God and God has mind and body but it is invisible. He has to deploy His own self in His own image through a visible self, namely sons and daughters. In doing this, one is plus and one is minus. They have a relationship of plus and minus. For this to happen, a person in the position of plus must first deny themselves. If someone is a plus here on earth, he cannot become a plus in spirit world. Therefore, on earth he must become a minus, then he will become a plus in heaven. That is on the heartistic realm. That means that here on earth, if we live almost miserably, serving all mankind and everybody here, then when you go to the other world, spirit world, heaven, you will be raised up to the highest point, depending on how low you were here. This happens by living for the sake of others.
This is highly conceptual, but if a man loves a woman very much, the woman will love him so much so that there is a way for him to go directly to heaven. There is more than one way to go. That’s the Kingdom of Heaven-you can go many ways. By the same token, she can do this. We must understand that what we experience here and what we will experience there are not the same as we think. If we live here as a millionaire, do you think we will also live like a millionaire up there? No. Usually, it is reversed. Why? Because if we don’t live for the sake of other people, how can we go up high in the spirit world? Do you follow? The ordinary person doesn’t understand that.
America, in other words, the West, is kind of plus here on earth today. Since they are a plus, they cannot go here and become a plus. They are already a plus here, so they have to go to a minus position. Then they can go to plus even if they go to spirit world. Once you reach up high, you’ve got to find carefully where your low position is. You have to find it and go down. The only way is that low position, not a high position. That is the rhythm of all life. First you have to come low before you become high. When you go high, then you must always come down low. If we live here on earth for the sake of other people, we will go so much higher in the spirit world. That’s what the essence is.
This is God, this is children (pointing to blackboard). That is, Adam and Eve. The reciprocal subject and object ideal is here. Here is an individual. Here they are a pair, but here is an individual. That means when Adam was born as a boy or as a man-to-be, he goes his own way. By the same token, Eve has her own path to follow as she is growing up. Adam and Eve do not go by themselves. They have to bring their parents along with them. This is important for everyone. After each person is born, he or she has to go through the stage of the true brothers and sisters. They must become a true brother and sister, a good brother and sister. Do any parents want to see their sons and daughters fighting with one another? That is the most painful thing. Actually, the parents’ heart wants to see the brothers and sisters loving one another even more than they love their parents. The same is true of the animal world. Animal parents don’t want their children to fight. What about here in America? Of course, we got so individualistic, it’s hard for us to understand this.
This is the original formula. We are born as children. Then we must first become good brothers and sisters, always keeping God in mind. You should not forget God. No matter what they do, good or bad, they have to keep God in mind always while they are growing up. As they grow from small children, getting older and older, they develop not only their children’s heartistic attitude toward their parents but also their heartistic position as brothers and sisters. They soon come to play two roles, that of children and that of brothers and sisters. Why is that so important? You might think that these are just a few childhood years, but they are very important. While we are growing in our family, we have to have rigid, perfect training. There are hundreds of millions of families in the world. Unless you are accustomed to correct relationships within the family, you cannot relate to all of them peacefully.
So we can now categorize these relationships. The love between parents and children is vertical love. The love between husband and wife is that of left and right, or horizontal. And the love between brothers and sisters is that of front and rear. All of those comprise a sphere, correct? Our heartistic training is supposed to lead us to perfection. Therefore, the family is indeed the training ground, the perfect textbook. It is the textbook of father, the textbook of mother and the textbook of brothers and sisters, all four different kinds of relationships.
Of course, that expands into the world with the grandfather’s heartistic world, the grandsons, and in-laws, stepsons and daughters, uncles and aunts. Extended family relationships reflect your attitude toward the rest of mankind.
I have just outlined the basic kinds of relationships there are and what kinds of attitudes you should maintain in those relationships. When you pass this, and when you pass this extended application, you will become a person about whom God can say to others, “You should learn from him. He is the typical example of My love.”
That means I, too, must be able to look at the elderly grandfathers and grandmothers here in America and really feel the same kind of affection, the same love, even stronger toward these grandparents, than towards my own grandparents. I should look at them as my own father and mother. Likewise, in all different age groups, I feel the extension of my own family. When that is the case, I would have passed all the tests of God and everybody would try to follow my example. I have the confidence that if God told me, “I want you to take that shabbiest, most unappealing old grandmother into your home and take care of her as your own grandmother. That’s your grandmother” I would obey. I would treat her better than my own grandmother. By the same token, those who are the age of my own parents, if God told me to take care of somebody, I would be ready to do it, no matter how difficult it might be.
If True Mother had been a black woman, rather than a Korean, would I have loved her any less? No, it doesn’t matter what her race or culture is, I must love the woman in Mother’s position the most. Whenever I see a black brother or sister, I think, “Oh, that person’s ancestors went off many, many generations ago and lived in a very hot climate and became dark-skinned, but they are my kinfolk. How much difficulty they must have gone through generation after generation!” Because of this basic heartistic attitude and understanding and willingness, the Unification Church can have successful international marriages. If you don’t understand this basic attitude, then this is meaningless.
So the son and daughter grow, brother and sister becoming bigger and more mature. Adam is the one who is to be the perfected son, and Eve is the one who is to be the perfected daughter. Both were children of God. Adam was to grow up to be in the elder brother’s position, and Eve was in the younger sister’s position. After mastering the heartistic relationship as a son and daughter to the parents, then as brother and sister to one another, they would have been ready to become husband and wife, heartistically ready for that level of relationship between husband and a wife.
We must understand, not everybody is qualified to become a husband and wife just because they grow up to be a man and a woman. Only God’s son and daughter are allowed to become husband and wife. In order to become God’s, not Satan’s, son and daughter, we have to experience the other levels of relationship before becoming husband and wife.
Why have I mentioned this in such an elaborate way? Because here are American women who think, “Well, I am a woman and therefore I am entitled to have a husband.” But that is not the case at all. Have you loved your parents according to God’s heavenly way? Have you loved your brothers and sisters in a heavenly way? Are you prepared to love your husband in a heavenly way? There is only one Adam and one Eve. Another example of what American women say is, “Oh, there are millions of people I can choose from, or Father can choose from.” No, no, there is only one Adam and one Eve. There is no other possibility. If you meet your husband, he is your Adam. There is no second runner-up, there is no alternative.
Here there is no spouse (pointing to area of blackboard) or no plus and minus, subject and object relationship. We go from one extreme to another extreme, one direction to another. This is East and this is West. There is no spouse. This is single. All are single until they get married. So it is a big task for us to become dual characteristics, like God. God has dual characteristics, both man and woman’s characteristics. Each man has woman’s characteristics, as well.
Adam might have tremendous aspirations and ambitions, no matter what. Maybe in Adam’s time, if there had been such a possibility, he would have gone on to get a Ph.D. Whatever he might do, his ultimate requirement is that he has to find a wife, get married to another person. Adam and Eve actually didn’t think about one another as husband and wife. They were independent of each other. The love of parents was more superior for them. Anyway, they never thought about getting married. After a while, it dawned on Adam that perhaps he could take Eve as his wife, after observing nature and seeing that everything in nature comes in pairs. That’s how they gradually came to think, “Maybe she/he is meant to be my mate.” Then later they came to realize, “It must be.” As they grew it became clear.
When they approach this level of maturity, when they are about ready to be Blessed in marriage by God, the vertical line shortens up and God comes down here also. Adam and Eve come up and toward that one focal point. And where should Adam and Eve meet? You may think, here, or here or that any point on this line would be okay. But that is not so. Adam and Eve have to meet right here at the center. There is no other point. That’s why they are ninety degrees. By doing that, there is the most natural approach. There is no loss. That’s the most effective, most economical way. It’s a shortcut all around. That is the ideal, that is ninety degrees.
If you envision that in the sphere, then the twelve independent pieces will still make a perfect sphere, no matter which piece you may fit in which position. Everybody likes this one position, God likes it, father and mother like it, children like it, brothers and sisters like it. When a husband and wife spend their first night together, God comes down right here and with them, forms a nuclei. This is the settling point of the love of all positions. The parent’s love and parent’s position is here, children’s love and children’s position is here, the couple’s position is here; the focus of all love settles down from this point on and God becomes the center, the nuclei.
This is what God intended: the culminating point of His ideal of creation. From here, everything is connected and extended in all directions. We can see a tremendous multiplication which will form a world full of billions of people. Therefore it is very natural and we cannot deny, that in order to reach that point, mind and body must become one or else we just cannot serve the purpose. To serve True Love, mind and body must have complete unification. The upper sphere, lower sphere, the right sphere, left sphere, front sphere and rear sphere, completely combine centered on True Love. It’s true. Therefore it is a tremendous pride and privilege to have sons and daughters because we have to have this rigid standard of God’s love before we are allowed to have children. It is the original standard, the original attitude of God’s position. God gave all things this ability as He made the creation. How enjoyable it was to be in Adam’s position! God wanted to give them His same feeling of joy, that is the position to be a couple and to bear children. Now you are experiencing God’s position.
Father looked for the truth and he was amazed to finally realize that there was nothing God did not give to everybody. Everybody had and has the potential to experience God’s position himself. There is nothing God reserved for Himself. You want your truly loving father and truly loving mother to be a king and queen, don’t you? Everybody answers the same, Yes! Yes! Emphatically you would answer, “I want my father to be king.” You also want your grandfather and grandmother to become a king and queen, don’t you? And also, you want your spouse to become a king and you become a queen. You want that, don’t you? How about your children? It is the same answer. That is the privilege God bestowed to all mankind, all children, without exception. You are rightfully eligible to have that. If Adam and Eve didn’t fall, God would have been the king Himself. The king’s son and daughter are a prince and princess, aren’t they? Literally Adam and Eve would have been that prince and princess, on the way to becoming king and queen one day. This is not just thought, but reality.
When they succeeded in growing up in a good manner and became husband and wife and king and queen, only one nation under God would have existed throughout millions of generations. There never would have been two countries or three countries, or like today when we see hundreds of countries. Should there have been one country or two countries? (One.) Would America exist as it does today? No. It would have been a part of God’s country. One country would exist centered on Adam’s culture. One culture, one country; one kingship country. The citizens or subjects would all be royal families, deployed everywhere centering on one center. They would become the so-called population.
Now Father is telling us the concept of king and queen is not so distant. We can see already, we must be kings and queens because our parents are kings and queens. We are the offspring of kings and queens and eventually we will be too. This is literally how God created. How different it is: what we are today and what we are supposed to be!